Tips from us


Practical wedding day tips from a photographer’s perspective, designed to help your day flow effortlessly and ensure your photos look and feel their best.



Planning a wedding can feel like a lot. This guide is here to gently guide you through the details that matter most, helping your day feel calm, intentional, and true to you, while creating space for moments that look and feel beautiful in your photos.

Inside the guide:


  • Months before the wedding
  • Venue Tips
  • Stationary
  • Dress & Suit
  • Flowers & Decor
  • Hair & Make-up
  • Bridal Party
  • DJ & Entertainment
  • Menu & Drinks
  • Master of Ceremonies
  • More Wedding Tips
  • Vendors

 

6-12 Months Before the Wedding

The first steps to planning your wedding

• Share the joy and announce your engagement.

• Choose 2–3 possible wedding dates to keep things flexible as you secure your dream vendors.

• Sit down together to create a budget and chat through contributions and expectations.

• Begin shaping your guest list.

• Explore venue options, request pricing, and book your venue as one of your first steps.

• Secure your photographer and videographer to capture your story.

• Start exploring wedding dress styles and silhouettes that feel like you.

• Gather inspiration for your colour palette and overall décor feel.

• Send out save-the-dates so your guests can mark their calendars.

• Begin researching trusted suppliers and book them as they become available.

• Book a dress fitting to refine the look and feel of your gown, even if you don’t purchase it from that designer.

4-5 Months Before the Wedding


• Focus on more detailed planning and use this time to secure any remaining vendors as soon as possible.

• Book your officiant.

• Begin a simple beauty routine to care for your skin and overall well-being.

• Purchase your wedding dress.

• Appoint your master of ceremonies.

• Finalise your guest list.

• Start dreaming up and planning your honeymoon.

• Create your gift registry or list of gift ideas.

• Research and select at least three accommodation options for family and guests.

• Decide on your stationery and invitations (printed or digital) including programs, menus, table numbers, thank-you cards, favours, and your wedding website.

• Draw up your antenuptial contract.

• Confirm and book any remaining wedding vendors.

2-3 Months Before the Wedding

With the day drawing closer, this is the time to refine your plans and bring all the meaningful details together.

• Choose your hair and makeup style and book your makeup artist.

• Connect with your officiant and complete any required pre-marriage classes.

• Book all décor rentals if they are not included with your venue.

• Decide on your wedding cake style and schedule a tasting.

• Finalise wedding party attire.

• Book your musicians or DJ.

• Purchase your wedding bands.

• Book honeymoon flights and accommodation.

• Reserve your wedding night accommodation.

• Plan the flow of your ceremony and reception.

• Purchase wedding day details such as a guestbook, flower basket, ring box, and similar items.

• Finalise your reception menu and canapés.

• Send out your wedding invitations.

• Complete final fittings for parents and the wedding party.

• Finalise wedding favours and décor elements.

• Begin wearing in your wedding shoes.

• Attend your hair and makeup trials.

• Decide who will be giving speeches and let them know in advance.

The Final Month Before the Wedding


This is the season of tying up loose ends and shifting your focus from planning to presence. Trust the work you’ve done and allow the final details to fall into place.



• Confirm all vendor bookings and timelines via email or phone.

• Finalise and confirm honeymoon reservations.

• Attend your final dress fitting.

• Settle outstanding vendor payments and confirm payment schedules.

• Collect your wedding dress and suit once ready.

• Finalise RSVPs and provide the final guest count to your venue and caterer.

• Send your final playlist and music requests to your DJ or musicians.

• Get your final haircut and colour.

• Delegate wedding-day responsibilities to trusted friends or family members.

• Begin packing your honeymoon bag.

• Schedule a final check-in with your photographer and videographer to share priorities and special requests.

• Prepare a small wedding-day emergency kit.

• Pack all wedding outfits, shoes, and accessories.

• Distribute final timelines and to-do lists to everyone involved.

Your venue sets the tone for your entire wedding day. From flow and atmosphere to how your photos feel, these are a few thoughtful things we encourage you to consider, based on what we’ve seen work beautifully.


Venue Tips From Us


• Consider how many guests you’ll be hosting and whether the space feels comfortable for that number.

• Decide on a realistic budget and what you’re comfortable spending on the venue.

• Ask what is included: catering, tables, chairs, cutlery, and décor, as this can greatly affect your overall planning.

• Check whether the venue offers on-site or nearby accommodation.

• Ask about their loadshedding plan and backup power options.

• Find out how the cash bar works and whether pricing feels reasonable for your guests.

• If you’re planning an outdoor wedding, confirm there is an indoor or weather backup plan.

• Always read your contract carefully and watch out for any hidden clauses or small print.


Planning With Photos in Mind

• Aim to have all décor set up at least two hours before the ceremony, ideally around 11:00-12:00. This gives us enough time to photograph all the details you’ve planned so carefully, and allows breathing room if something unexpected comes up.

• Take note of the natural light in your venue. If the space is darker, plan for candles, fairy lights, or warm bulb lighting to create a soft, inviting glow for your reception.

• When choosing the placement of your main table, try to avoid visible plugs, cables, or less-than-pretty background elements.

• Be mindful of mirrors behind the main table, as guests and background clutter can reflect into your photos.

• When planning your ceremony flowers or arch, leave a little space between where you’ll stand and your officiant. This allows us to photograph both of you clearly, without distractions in the frame.

Stationery Tips From Us


Wedding stationery is often underestimated, but it plays a powerful role in setting the tone for your day. Your invitations are the very first glimpse your guests have of your wedding and first impressions truly do last.


We encourage you to stay true to the theme, colours, and overall feeling you’ve chosen, carrying those elements through your invitations and stationery. A skilled stationery designer can help you achieve that subtle “wow” factor, creating designs that feel both unique and timeless, and that beautifully introduce your wedding story to your guests.


If you’re still gathering ideas, create a Pinterest board with your favourites and use it as a visual guide while designing. If you’d prefer to design your own stationery, platforms like Canva offer modern, user-friendly templates, while Wix and The Knot provide beautiful options for wedding websites.

Stationery to Consider for Your Wedding


From the planning stages through to the final thank-you notes, these are some of the key stationery items you may need:

• Save-the-dates (printed or digital)

• Wedding invitations with RSVP options

• Hymns or order of service (if applicable)

• Seating plan

• Name tags or place cards

• Table numbers

• Menus

• Thank-you cards

• Welcome sign

• Bar or drinks sign (if applicable)

• Guestbook and gift table signage

• Any additional signs to help guide your guests throughout the day

From a Photographer’s Perspective



Stationery makes a beautiful difference in your décor and detail photos, it’s often the final touch that brings everything together. Choosing colours and designs that complement your flowers and venue helps create a cohesive, flowing look in your images.


Extras are always a bonus. Items such as vows, invitation suites, or handwritten notes can be styled alongside your bridal accessories, adding depth and meaning to your detail photographs.

 

The Dress & Suit - Tips From Us


Your wedding attire is deeply personal. It’s about more than how it looks, it’s how it makes you feel, how easily you move, and how confidently you step into your day.

 

Rent or buy? If you’re sentimental, buying your dress may feel right. If you’re working within a tighter budget, renting can be a beautiful and practical alternative, after all, it’s a dress you’ll wear for one unforgettable day.

Choose a silhouette that suits you. Whether it’s a trumpet, flare, ball gown, or straight cut, choose a style that flatters your body and allows you to move comfortably.

Catalogue or custom-made? Book a dress fitting early to explore what truly works for your body. Inspiration photos don’t always translate the same way in real life and sometimes the dress you least expect becomes the one.

Consider the colour. Your skin tone and complexion play a big role here. Choose a shade that complements your natural colouring, whether porcelain, olive, or sun-kissed.

Think about sleeve and neckline choices. Strapless and boobtube dresses are stunning, but only when designed for your body. If you’re constantly adjusting your dress, it can take you out of the moment. Choose something you feel secure and beautiful in.

From Our Experience Behind the Lens



• Pick a dress that reflects your style and fits your body comfortably. If you feel uncomfortable, it will show. When you feel confident and at ease, it radiates in your photos.

• If you’re getting married in warmer months, dress accordingly. Lightweight, breathable fabrics, sleeveless designs, or open backs can make a big difference to your comfort on the day. Remember comfort is just as important as how you look.


The Suit & Shirt

• When choosing the suit and shirt, consider how the colours work alongside the wedding dress and the setting of your venue. A well-coordinated palette helps everything feel intentional and cohesive in photographs.

Florist & Décor - Tips From Us

Flowers and décor play a big role in setting the atmosphere of your wedding, but there’s often a misconception around floral budgets. If you’re working from a Pinterest image, it’s important to remember that recreating that exact look can be costly.


Any budget can work beautifully, what matters most is being realistic about the look and scale your budget allows, and leaning into that intentionally rather than trying to force something that doesn’t fit.


When requesting quotes, always share enough reference images to communicate the overall feeling you’re aiming for, as well as specific flowers you love. Floral quotes include more than just the blooms themselves, there are logistics involved that are easy to overlook but essential. Your florist needs to source, care for, transport, and set up the flowers with a team to ensure everything arrives in perfect condition.


Ask what décor items your florist offers and whether they align with your aesthetic. Once you’ve chosen your elements, you should receive a clear, comprehensive quotation that includes line items, delivery, setup, and collection so there are no surprises later.

A Few Gentle Tips


 • Visit a floral market to get a sense of seasonal flowers and pricing. If your floral needs are minimal, a friend or family member with a good eye can sometimes help, simple arrangements in beautiful vases can be incredibly effective.

• We love statement pieces like arches, hanging installations, and botanical runners, but keep guest comfort in mind. If table décor is too tall, guests may struggle to see one another.

• Make sure there’s enough space on tables for plates, cutlery, and glassware, function is just as important as beauty.

• Try to keep all your elements cohesive. If you’re choosing dried or muted florals, match them with softer stationery, textures, and décor so everything flows naturally.

Hair & Makeup - Tips From Us

As a bride, your hair and makeup should feel like you - just elevated.

Before choosing an artist, take time to decide the overall look you’re drawn to. Some artists specialise in soft, natural finishes, while others lean toward a more dramatic, full-glam style. Neither is right or wrong, what matters is choosing someone whose work aligns with your vision.


Always review an artist’s full portfolio rather than relying on a single recommendation. A style that worked beautifully for a friend may not suit your features or personal taste. Any professional hair and makeup artist should also have a backup plan in place in case of illness or emergencies, be sure to confirm this before paying your deposit. While these situations are out of everyone’s control, your wedding day will go ahead regardless, so it’s important to feel secure in your choice.


We strongly recommend scheduling a trial a few weeks before the wedding. This gives you the opportunity to see the final result, refine details, and make any adjustments well ahead of time.


From a Photographer’s Perspective


• A professional stylist will provide a clear schedule or timeline to ensure there’s enough time for the bride, bridesmaids, and moms. Confirm in advance what time everyone will be finished.

• We’ve experienced weddings where hair and makeup ran late, leaving only minutes before the ceremony. When this happens, we miss irreplaceable moments: getting dressed, quiet moments with family, and time with bridesmaids.

• Aim to be fully ready at least 45–70 minutes before the ceremony. This buffer allows for calm, unhurried photos and a far more relaxed start to the day.

• Ask your stylist for extra hairpins and whether they use a makeup sealer, especially helpful for warm weather and emotional moments.

Tips from us


The Bridal Party


Choosing your bridal party can feel surprisingly difficult, especially if you have a large circle of friends or close family. Cultural or religious traditions may also play an important role. Our biggest piece of advice? Choose the people who truly support you, those who bring calm, help where needed, and make you feel like yourself on the day.


This is not the time for obligation. Pick the friends and family members who will lift you up, not add unnecessary stress.


The Size of Your Bridal Party


There’s no right or wrong size. Some couples love being surrounded by many friends and family, while others choose just one or two people or even none at all.


From a photography point of view, larger bridal parties can make group photos easier, but it’s important to remember that costs increase with size, and logistics matter. If you have a larger group, make sure you book a spacious suite for getting ready, nothing creates stress faster than too many people in a small room.


Above all, choose people who comfort and support you, not the “sour Susan” in the corner complaining about her hair.


Bridal Party Attire


• Any colour palette or dress style can work beautifully, but allowing bridesmaids to choose their own silhouettes often leads to happier, more confident photos. Different body types feel comfortable in different cuts and that confidence shows.

• Groomsmen usually look most cohesive in matching styles and colours (excluding the groom, who should stand out subtly).

• Always consider your surroundings and venue when choosing colours. Bright tones may pop beautifully in neutral open spaces, while softer or earthy shades often suit forest or garden settings better. Let the season, temperature, and natural colours guide your choices.

DJ & Entertainment,  Tips From Us


Music sets the energy of your entire wedding day. From the ceremony to the last song of the night, it guides emotion, movement, and atmosphere. The right DJ or entertainer doesn’t just play music, they help your day flow naturally and keep your guests engaged and celebrating.


Every moment deserves intention, whether you and your bridal party walk down the aisle to the same song or each have your own. Thoughtful music choices turn transitions into moments and help your day feel cohesive from start to finish.


A Few Things to Consider


• Choose a DJ or artist who comes recommended and has proven wedding experience.

• Ask about their backup plan for loadshedding or technical issues - this is essential.

• Share your preferred songs and general music style, but also trust your DJ to read the room. We’ve seen many weddings where the energy fades simply because the music didn’t adapt to the crowd.

• Encourage your DJ to lean into what’s working, if guests are loving a good sokkie, let it run. If upbeat dance tracks are keeping the floor full, keep the momentum going. Slower songs can sometimes send guests back to the bar instead of the dance floor.

• Ask where the DJ plans to set up their station and speakers. Poor placement can block décor or dominate the space visually, especially around the main table. Thoughtful positioning helps protect both your atmosphere and your photos.

Tips from us


Menu & Drinks


Food and drinks play a big role in how relaxed and happy your guests feel throughout the day. When guests are well fed and taken care of, the atmosphere stays light, social, and joyful.


Canapés & Drinks


• During canapés, plan for at least 4-5 canapés per guest, including your service providers.

• Aim for three drinks per guest during canapés, ideally two alcoholic options and one non-alcoholic.


Bar Options to Discuss With Your Venue


Ask your venue about the different bar setups available so you can choose what suits your budget and guest experience best:

• A cash bar

• An open bar

• A tab system that switches to a cash bar once the limit is reached (for example, a R5 000 tab that covers drinks until it runs out)


Timing & Flow


• If possible, plan your timeline to allow around 30 minutes for you to spend with your guests during canapés. This gives you a chance to enjoy the food you’ve chosen, connect with your guests, and allows us time to photograph the canapé area while everything is beautifully set up.

• If you’d prefer not to attend the canapé hour, ask your venue to prepare a small picnic basket with food and drinks for the two of you to enjoy privately.


Keeping Guests Happy


• Make sure there’s enough food, drinks, and entertainment to keep guests comfortable while we step away for photos. A relaxed crowd makes for natural, joyful images.

• A fun and much-loved extra is a late-night snack, such as pizza served around 23:00 or midnight, perfect for the party-goers once the dancing is in full swing.

Master of Ceremonies — Tips From Us


Your wedding MC is the host of the day. Their role is to keep everything running smoothly, guide guests through the timeline, and help maintain a relaxed, enjoyable atmosphere from start to finish.


It’s important that you as the couple clearly communicate what you expect from your MC. Meet with them well before the wedding to walk through the day, explain your priorities, and share anything you’d like them to include, such as stories, announcements, or tone. This is also the time to make it clear which topics are off-limits.


Introduce your MC to your key suppliers and vendors ahead of time. When your MC knows who to speak to for what, you’re free to enjoy your day without being interrupted by questions or decisions.


From Our Experience


• Keep your MC informed of any changes or updates, they can be your greatest support or your biggest disruption depending on communication.

• Make it clear that they need to follow your timeline, not their own version of how the day should run.

• We’ve experienced weddings where MCs drank too much during the reception, which led to missed announcements, delayed schedules, and guests losing interest. Choose someone responsible and set expectations early.


What Your MC Helps With

• Gathering guests for photos

• Helping guests find their seats

• Making announcements

• Introducing speakers

• Explaining the flow of the wedding day

• Assisting with the overall schedule alongside the photographer and venue team

and a few


More Wedding Tips From Us


Wedding Planners & Coordinators


A planner or on-the-day coordinator can be incredibly helpful, especially with the small details you might not think of, like umbrellas, transport, or making sure there are enough drinks. If it fits within your budget, having someone dedicated to overseeing the day allows you to relax and stay present.


Guest List


Invite the people who are actively part of your life. Those distant high school friends you haven’t spoken to in years will understand. Weddings add up quickly, so focus on the people who will still be checking in on you six months from now.


Vendors


Remember to think about all your vendors or appoint someone who will. Your stylist, DJ, and other suppliers appreciate a bottle of water or a small snack just as much as anyone else. Include everyone involved when planning food and drinks. Happy vendors often go the extra mile, everyone is human after all.


Marriage Officiant


Choose an officiant who knows you well and understands the tone you want for your ceremony. It’s important they stick to the agreed timing. We’ve seen ceremonies run far longer than planned, which can cause guests to lose focus and leave very little time for photos sometimes with only minutes of daylight left. Gentle reminders go a long way.


Wedding Cake


There’s no right or wrong choice. Some couples love a traditional wedding cake, while others opt for cupcakes, doughnuts, or even a champagne tower. Choose what feels like you.


Wedding Favours


Favours can double as table décor, something fun to keep guests busy, a take-home gift at the end of the night, or a small accessory that ties into your theme. Keep it meaningful rather than obligatory, it doesn't have to cost thousands extra, sometimes even a handwritten note goes a long way.


Wedding Day Transport


If we’ll be moving around for bridal party or couple photos, plan ahead for transport. It often works best if you and your partner travel together, while the bridal party uses separate vehicles, this allows them to return to guests while we finish your couple shoot.


Emergency Kit


An emergency kit is always a good idea. Consider including:

• Stain-removing wipes

• Wet wipes

• Lint roller

• Safety pins

• Sewing kit

• Tissues

• Cable ties

• Nail glue

• Baby powder (great for reducing static and perspiration)

• Makeup blender

• Dry shampoo

• Hair clips

• Extra makeup

• Tweezers

• Feminine products


Accommodation


If your venue isn’t centrally located or guests are travelling far, including accommodation options on your invitations is a thoughtful touch. Many venues offer on-site lodging, which works beautifully for weekend weddings.


Bridal Suite & Getting Ready Spaces


Think about where you’ll be getting ready. Do you love clean, light-filled spaces or moody rooms with character? We adapt to any environment, but if you’re dreaming of bright, airy portraits, stone walls or dark rooms may not give that look.

Also consider space: is the room large enough for your bridal party, does it have good natural light, and is there space to move comfortably? The same applies to where the groom gets ready.

Ask your bridal party to keep the area tidy, or designate a “dirty corner” for bags and clutter, this saves time and helps keep photos clean and calm.


Be Prepared (and Breathe)


Not everything will go exactly according to plan and that’s okay. We’ll help guide you through the day. What matters most is that you’re marrying your person.

Your wedding day is special, but you and your partner are the main characters in this story. At the end of it all, that’s what truly matters 🤍

 

REFERRAL Lists of vendors

 

Wedding Gowns


Bella Bride - KZN

Atari’s House of Bridals - Roodepoort

Bride2Be - Muldersdrift

The wedding Boutique - Sandton

Von Ami Couture - Pretoria

Bride&Co- All over SA

Estelle Designs - JHB

Loca Bridal - PE

Maryke Bespoke Bridal - Hilton

House of Santos - JHB

The Wedding Collective - PTA

Mimie Bridal Atelier - PTA

Allora Bridal - Stellenbosch

Meliza Mary - Durban

Once Worn Bridal - CPT

Groom Attire


Eurosuit - All over SA

Bride & Co - All Over SA

Woolworths

Smart Guy - Centurion

Knap Sak - Frankfort

Jewellery &

Accessories


Simos Earrings

HelloHaai

Lovisa

Meraki Jewellery Design

Dear Rae

Beaudell Jewellery

Silvery

Famke Jewellery

Nina Bosch

Botanica Jewellery

Theia Jewellery

Demi- Lee’s Ceramic Earrings

Feisty Arts

Bridesmaids


Von Ami Couture - PTA

House of Superious Clothing -

PTA

The Maiden - Online

Gelique Couture - PTA

Mibella - Online

Bride & Co - All over SA

YDE - All over SA

Flowers &

Decor


Spotted Owl Events - KZN

The Love Knot - PTA

Love Beloved - PTA

AZ Hiring - Piet Retief

Sarah Steward Flowers - KZN

Petal & Twig - Piet Retief

Bliss Floral Creations - JHB

Mode Weddings - Centurion

Purple Bell Events - Centurion

Sjoee Events - Nelspruit

Bloeme - Stellenbosch

Flowers & Company - Groblersdal

Floral & Decor by Deo-Dane - Gauteng

Stationary &

Design


Sulit Design - CT

Creative Heroes - PTA

Rabbitstrail

JP Design

Flaneur Designs - JHB

I Do Creative Concepts - Hartbeespoort

Hennak - Pretoria

Design Love - Roodepoort

Weddings by EB - Gauteng

Kiss n Bliss - Pretoria

Epifany - Pretoria

Suikerbossie Creative - Pretoria

MU Studio - Pretoria

Hair &

Makeup


Brenna Paige - Hair & Makeup - Kloof

Nixon Makeup Team - Durban

Miss Jaydeekay Makeup - PTA

Micaela Benn Makeup - Vanderbijl

Making Faces by Gerda - Gauteng

Makeup by Teagan - Boksburg

Makeup by Rica - PTA

Ruby Whoo Makeup - BHM

Makeup Matters - KZN, CPT

Unmissable Makeup - Centurion

Canvas Makeup & Hair - Gauteng

Accentuate Hair & Makeup - KZN

Sanmarie Botha Hair & Makeup - CPT

Makeup by Sandrads - MIdlands

Tamaryn Hair & Makeup - Gauteng

Makeup Alchemist - CPT

Mooi Makeup & Hair - CPT

Instaglam Makeup & Hair -JHB

Hairtech Surien - BHM

MUD Hair & Makeup - Sandton

DJ & Live Entertainment


Akoestiek - Gauteng

DJ Phat George - KZN

Cliffs Disco - Gauteng

DJ Extreme - KZN

Cream Cheese - Gauteng

Gauteng DJ - Gauteng

Harmony Music - Gauteng

V & E Entertainment - Gauteng

Damian Boyd - All over SA

Harp Allure - Gauteng

True Talent Studios - Gauteng

Gracenote Music - Gauteng

 

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